She’s Going to College!

It’s official, she is going. A few of the colleges she has dreamed of attending wrote her letters and sent her emails saying they’d be thrilled to have her. She screamed! She jumped up and down! She was elated, beyond elated! I screamed and jumped up and down with her. I was elated, but not beyond elated. Because we all know what this really means. Yep, it means that she is really going to leave. She is not sure where she will land…still waiting for letters from a few other potential options. But none of these options are in my zip code or even in my state. She is flying the coop. I pray her wings are strong enough for the flight. I believe that they are but I still pray. I am proud of her, happy for her and yet slightly sad and confused. Elated? For her, maybe. For her that she gets to take those beautiful blue eyes and go out and view the world from a different lens–a lens that is more her own–a lens that she will continue to fine tune, adjust and readjust as she becomes a more aware and conscious adult. Will she know a good thing when she sees it? Will she know danger? Will she follow her heart? Or her head?

I will know some of her thoughts, her ideas, her feelings, her fears but certainly a lot fewer of them than I do now. I won’t be able to see her eyes every day when she comes home from school and instantly be able to determine if she had a good day or that something is weighing on her. She will get to decide if she wants to tell me–or not. I won’t necessarily “just know.” The protective layer that I have, or at least think I have with her living in my house, will peel away as she exits. And I don’t know what it looks like or feels like to not have that layer in tact. And neither does she.

But once again, I am ahead of myself. The yoga teacher in me says, “Embrace the present. She is still here.” The letters arrived and told us she’d been accepted, and she will go, but she is not gone yet. This period of time feels a little bit like a bandaid being pulled off ever so slowly. Ouch! And I don’t exactly know what lies beneath the bandaid. My friends and relatives who have older kids who have gone off to college tell me,”It’s great. It’s like a new chapter and it’s cool to develop a more adult to adult type of relationship with your child, which will happen when she leaves.” O.k., yes, but I actually really like this chapter. The one in which she lives in my house, and I get to see her and hug her every day. You can’t hug via skype or text. Ouch again!

I know, I can kick and scream all I want about this (well, into my pillow maybe), but there’s no turning back, she going. And the funny thing is, this is what I wanted, and deep down do want for her. This is when I am supposed to say to myself, “All the hard work paid off. She’s going to college! She did it! You did it!” Maybe when that bandaid is completely off and is no longer uncomfortably pulling at the hairs on my skin, I will be able to say that.

I will certainly let you know!

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